With Valentines Day right around the corner, there are a lot of people thinking about love.

One of the sentiments I have seen floating around the web over the past few days is that we shouldn’t need “a day” for love. Love and caring for your partner should be part of how you live your life everyday. I have to say, I wholeheartedly agree with that sentiment.

At the same time, I readily acknowledge that it is easy for couples to get caught up in day to day life and stop making time to be lovers. When that happens it’s a terrible thing. Being lovers is part of what drew you together in the first place, and it’s needed to keep the relationships alive.

So no, we shouldn’t need a day for love. But sometimes we need a gentle reminder about what is important in life. There will always be more dishes, laundry and bills to pay. But for your love to last it has to be nurtured, and it needs to be a priority in your life.

Make sure you take time this Valentines to think of your partner and show them that you appreciate them. Think about their good qualities and the things you love them for. And tell them you love them.

If you’ve lost track of that side of your relationship, use Valentines day as an opportunity to find it again. Take time out to focus on being lovers again, and never let it go.

You and your partner will both be happier for it, and your relationship will be stronger for it.